Archive for the ‘ Emotional/Mental Health ’ Category

Book it!

I wish we had Book it!  for adults — or, I don’t even know if it is still around , but if it were I would be racking up on Pizza Hut pizzas.

I just love reading. It’s so much better than a T.V. episode or a movie in forms of entertainment. It captures my attention longer because it usually takes me way more than 30mins to 2 hours to read a book. Plus, a book allows me to make up a unique story in my mind with the unwritten characteristics for the characters and settings.

When I was reading Harry Potter, I envisioned the characters slightly different than the ones they picked for the movie. I even pronounced Hermonie differently. I was able to take the story and make it my own and have an emotional connection to the book that no one else had. Sure, there were shared experiences from things explicitly stated in the book, but for the things not completely described, my imagination could run wild and create a more enriching story.

I love the way books engulf, the way they transport us from our surroundings when it’s a rainy day or a bright sunny summer afternoon.

I wish I could be engulfed while munching on some hot Pizza Hut pizza too.

Advertisements

Whose line is it anyway?

Today I did an Improv Workshop with Washington Improv Theater. It was so fun! I felt like I was a kid again.

We did a couple of exercises that I really enjoyed. In one, we started in a line against a wall, one person  acted out doing something in front of the group , the person next to them in the line would enter the scene and say “ Hey, What are you doing?” , the original person would tell them something that they weren’t doing and that other person would have to act it out and so on.

For example it would go like this:

Person 1: Acting like they are driving

Person 2: Hey, What are you doing?

Person 1: I am brushing my teeth

Person 2: Act like they are brushing their teeth

It would go like that until everyone went.

I learned that to do improv well, you can’t think about what you’re gonna do next. You just do it when prompted. Basically you’re not supposed to think, just do. So freeing and fun. I’d definitely recommend giving it a try. It’s a huge stress reliever and has the potential to be euphoric fun.

Not what we imagined.

I, like many of my generation, believed that upon graduation from college I would land a well paying job, move into my own apartment, enjoy the single life for a while , meet someone special, marry, settle down and raise a family. 

Reality has come upon us as shown in this atlantic article. Most of us are not getting that well paying job or any of the other events that follow. We are living at our parents house. If we do have a job, it’s not what we want and we are painfully underpaid. Others enjoy thriving careers at this time and feel nothing of this, but that is few and far between.

I have recently come into the job search category because the contract with my company for our client is not being renewed. So what does one do in this situation when the economy is so bleak and you feel helpless because you know you’re doing everything correctly, but no one seems to be biting. I’ve only been at this for the past week or so and this is what I’ve learned:

Make use of your contacts only when you know exactly what you want – Don’t just say ” I’m looking for a job, know of anything?” give specifics , ” I’m looking for mid-level communications positions, know of anything?” or better yet say ” I found _____ position with your company. Do you know of anyone who directly deals with hiring for that position?Or could you recommend me to this position?” or something along those lines. Keep asking until you find someone who knows who’s hiring for the position or can recommend you.

Be a resource person not a job beggar – I learned this from the book What Color Is Your Parachute?  it’s a practical manual for job hunters and career changers. You want to show how you could help an organization with their problems, not go in with the ” please give me a job!! I’ll do anything!!” attitude. Desperate is not a good look.

Network, Network,  Network – Doesn’t matter how smart you are , it’s who you know to get you in the door for an interview.

I haven’t been on the job hunt long, but I hope following these things will make my job hunt time very short.

What are some other things you have learned from the job-hunt?

I’m just 24 going on 6…

                                  

Earlier this week, we had a fire drill at work. The warning sounded “there’s a fire in the building, please evacuate” People flooded from each floor door onto the stair well that led to the ground floor and we leisurely walked out of the building to our assigned spaces in the parking lot. Some employees disobediently went to other department’s assigned spaces to  catch up with friends . Other colleagues began to bounce  a small ball around to each other in a game of mini foursquare.  One of my co-workers poked me and uttered some unrecognizable verbal sound. After a couple of minutes, a man on the megaphone signaled that this was just a drill and instructed us to orderly re-enter the building.

This was a scene I had witnessed many times in my life. However, these scenes were characteristics of my elementary school days. I never thought as an adult I would be participating in the same scenes as I did as a child. It’s as if Act 1 in this play became Act 4 and the play never really progressed into a story that led to an end. It just repeated and repeated on an infinite record player.

These elementary scenes were not just isolated to this particular moment — there were others:

I cried in front of people. As a child I did this very often. Either as a result of wanting to get my way or just because I didn’t get my way. I had no qualms about it depending on who was around. As I grew older, I thought this behavior should be left behind, after all ” big girls don’t cry”. But I did it recently.When I did it as an adult, it wasn’t of childish reasons. I shared something with people that was emotional and I responded as such. Now, I don’t think you should be a weeping willow, but I good cry around people who care about you once in awhile doesn’t make you less of an adult — it makes you human.

I did something stupid.  I took a non-calculated risk that almost left me in a horrible position. I thought adults never do that! By the time you reach adulthood you should have learned from your mistakes from adolescence, and by this point you should be taking it easy and going after those calculated risks tied to a huge payoff. I was wrong. In adulthood you will continue to  make mistakes , HUGE mistakes. The important thing is to learn from them.

I played around without inhibitions. When I participated in an activity, I still somehow think I’m invincible and if I get hurt I could use one of my many lives I’ve acquired during play like in Final Fantasy 7. However, it does not work that way. We are given one body and one life, we can’t jump off cliffs and not consider the risk of possibly cracking our heads open on a jagged rock in the water below.

I’m sure I’m just preaching to the choir , but if not, I hope the heads up does some good.

What is your idea of being an adult? And how has that changed as you’ve gotten older?

Get up and brush your teeth

Just 20 minutes ago I felt stressed out with life. There was just so much to do. I had to finish studying for the GRE, write a rent check, figure out other major changes in my life, write a blog post, get ready for bed and more and more and more— so many things! I just felt like everything was swallowing me up and I was about to drown in a sea of responsibilities. Then — I got up and brushed my teeth.

This one simple act in series of activities that is my bedtime ritual inspired me to do more. I finished getting ready for bed,  wrote the rent check, I am now writing a blog post, and my stress abated.

Sometimes when faced with anxiety and stress you just have to get up and brush your teeth. Start doing something that moves you forward. Lying in your bed stressing about things isn’t going to solve anything. Do something to be a catalyst for getting things done.

What is your “brushing your teeth” activity?

Will we ever get it right?

I was listening to my Pandora recently and one of my current  favorite songs “Someday” by Black Eyed Peas started playing. I like this song for a variety of reasons: it’s fun, catchy and an empowering tune.

The chorus goes like this:

Someday I’m gonna get it right, my life
Someday I’m gonna figure it out, maybe tonight
Coz I know I’ma get it right
And I know I’ma get it right
Someday, ooh ho hohoho
One day, ooh ho hohoho

As I listen to this song, I think about the journey we all go through to reach adulthood and I wonder will we ever get it right? Will we ever reach that point where we say I’ve arrived?

From what I’ve heard from older people, the answer is no. Things may get easier as we grow and learn, but there probably won’t be that point where we say ” Hey, I’ve figured this adult thing all out. I’ve got it all together” because we are always learning and growing.

 If you meet someone who says they have it all together. Turn around and run—run as fast as you can! You don’t want to spend a lot of time with someone who claims they know everything about life and therefore have nothing else to learn. Or tell them to write a book to let us all know the secret of how to figure life out.

I do think things get easier and we get better at navigating certain things everyday.

I don’t think the point of the song is that we will figure everything in this life out someday. After all, it is a catchy pop song— not very deep. But  it’s important to understand that we will continue to make  mistakes, but we’ll hopefully learn from them and become better people as we journey this path of adulthood.

What are somethings that have become easier as you’ve moved into adulthood?

The importance of being—no,doing.

I know we’ve all heard it before. We’ve got to cut ourselves out of the rat race and take time for ourselves to do nothing. But what about those of us who need to do something to relax. How about these things?

Go to a park and play pick-up soccer with friends

Listen to music

Journal

Read an engaging book

We all need time to recharge. Find your method of choice and fill-up!

What do you do to recharge?